- $37
PAKIRAMDAM (ATTUNEMENT): FILIPINOS ON AFFECTION BEYOND WORDS
- Course
- 9 Lessons
In this masterclass, explore the easily misunderstood core value of Pakiramdam- to sense. Discover why Filipinos speak in codes & how their affection-seeking strategies can be confusing from a Western cultural lens.
Why Can't You Say What You Mean?
Instead of those....
- SILENT TREATMENTS. I can't seem to figure out if you want me to get closer to you or if needed more space.
- DABOG ( creating intentional loud noises as a way to voice out upset, irritation, or anger). I get confused with those. Why can't you just tell me if I did something to upset you?
- PARINIG ( voicing out complaints but using a third person to indirectly reach you). I get angry when you do this. Why can't you tell me directly? What seems to be the problem?
Kumain Ka Na?
Can You Sense Me?
Pakiramdam is most complicated among the Filipino Core Values.
In America: Express your need directly. SAY IT
In America: Express your need directly. SAY IT
Pakiramdam: If we're connected. SENSE ME.
Our ancestors knew this by relying on the sun, the wind, and “loob” (inner makings of the self) to attune to each other & to decide what to do next.
How much are you missing by relying heavily on language packets of communication?
In the Philippines, you have cultural whisperers (tagapamagitan) whose roles include-
- Interpreting non-verbal assertions
- Serving as the bridge to interactions easily charged with misunderstandings
- Sharing helpful information not available to the other to bring a wider landscape of perspectives.
These Cultural Whisperers are Scarce in America (Diaspora).
In this Masterclass
Discover how the core value of Pakiramdam causes intergenerational communication gap in Filipino American homes
Sharpen your Pakiramdam skills so you can negotiate a healthier way to get the Pinoy Love you deserve.
Find yourself in a more satisfying Filipino relationship(s) whether with your mom,dad, kuya, ate or your partner.
Contents
Welcome (Tuloy Ka)!
HOW TO GET THE MOST OUT YOUR MASTERCLASS
Lesson 1
PAKIRAMDAM (ATTUNEMENT): THE ART OF SENSING THE OTHER
Lesson 2
COLLECTIVE CO-REGULATION IN THE PHILIPPINES
Lesson 3
Co-REGULATION IN IMMIGRATION: LOSING TO GAIN
Lesson 4
RECONCILING CO-REGULATION AND SELF-REGULATION
Lesson 5
FINDING AFFECTION IN WORDS & BEYOND WORDS
BONUS
25 TENDER START-UPS
MASTERCLASS REFLECTION WORKBOOK
Next Steps
WHAT NOW?